It is not my intention to hurt or offend anyone with my requests. 

This is solely to allow myself grace and permission to heal the way I feel is necessary.

I know it is very early, but this has weighed on my mind since we found out about the miracle that was blessed upon us.

After my birth, I do not wish to have any visitors in the hospital, unless you are personally asked. 

There will be a limited number of people asked to join us in the hospital. And those people will not be determined until Owyn comes Earthside, depending on many factors. Visiting time will be by a personal invitation by myself or John the day of the birth.

You’re relationship to us or the baby, does not entitle or guarantee you to be on that list. No offense intended.

This birth will end in a lotus baby, which means his Placenta will remain attached until it naturally falls off. This will allow for optimal bonding and closeness between Mom and Baby for the first 5-10 days of life. 

Mom and Baby will not leave home, unless critically necessary within the first 15 days of life. 

You are welcomed to visit our home, but will be asked to help around the house, bring a meal, and nurture Mama as well as Baby during this time. 

This is the last time I plan to go through this part of my life and I want to give myself the best possible chance to heal and recover both physically, mentally, and emotionally. 

I ask you to refrain from advising your opinions and remain  in silence due to the nature of me wanting to please others. I do not want to feel guilty about the decisions I feel very strongly about.I am being selfish for my health and happiness. I ask you respect this even if it is not what you agree with, prefer, or understand.

I have been through extreme darkness and was robbed of enjoying the first weeks and months of Dylan’s life to the fullest due to my own mind. And I have done massive work over the last 2 ½ years to ensure this time is different. 

I have a village that supports me, I hope you choose to be part of it- and in that, means respecting these requests. 

I ask you not to bring any “stuff” you feel obligated to buy the baby, but offer your time, energy, and help while we are in this vulnerable time.

My gratitude is vast. My intention is pure. My love is strong. 

Thank you,